An old saying “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” is worth remembering, especially when you’re a male trying to get along well with a female. Women and their idiosyncratic thought process have always bewildered men, and it holds true regardless of the socio-economic or geographical attributes that surround them. It goes without saying, the same things hold true for men too. If you’re a careerist, or someone who pays more attentions to success, and looking for a stable relationship, you might find socializing with female rather difficult. Here are a couple of elements that might put things in perspective while you delve into the female factor:
100% Attention
Everybody enjoys attention, and it is not gender-specific. However, women are more prone to enjoying attentions – something that helps your relationship thrives on. They relish the undivided attentions being showered on them, and usually get upset when you share your attention with something (e.g, swanky cell phone) or someone (e.g, another friend or maybe even your favorite rock star on TV). Regardless of the nature of talk, they would love you to offer your undivided attention to their conversation. Women sure love compliments, but it is rightly said that the highest compliment you can ever pay a woman is offer your undivided attention to her.
Compliments
Whether it is a male or female, timed rightly, compliments can boost one’s morale. But, women have a thing for compliments. Some like them in plenty, some in moderation. However, insincere adulation or excessive praise is more likely to hurt your credibility. Hence, be honest with your compliments and be creative about how you offer tribute to her elements. It often works and pays off.
Empathy
Women are a different breed – they have their own ways of dealing with stress and problems. An effective therapy most women fall back on when they’re under stress is finding a good outlet to vent out. Nothing soothes a woman more than talking about her problems to someone she trusts. But, make no mistake – she does not turn to you to seek a solution; rather she wants someone to empathize with her feelings and not offer their suggestions. Don’t offer her quick solutions – just listen to her and she will love you for that.
Communication
One doesn’t have to be a Harvard pass-out to understand the importance of communication in relationships. However, for obvious reasons, women feel secure when you communicate with then often enough, and of course, for all good reasons. Whether it is a nice text message from your cell phone, or seeking her valuable suggestions on a matter that’s important to you, she loves being communicated to so very often. No wonder then why a recent AirTel Ad has been crafted around the “talk” factor. It says, Baat karnese hi Baat banti Hei…
Reason
Remember, they are from Venus. Women are different from men and have their own reasons for being the way they are. Call it Illogical or Dil-logical, women, at times, might appear not logical enough to you. But then, they have different needs and they think differently. While men prefer focusing on one thing to find a solution, women tend to move from one subject to another simply to get things off their chest. If you want to understand them, be patient enough to listen to them until they find a solution their way!
It might so happen that you already know these facts or simply disagree with them, but these facts have been confirmed by human psychologists from around the world. With due respect to the women, this article is merely an effort to help bridge the gap between Mars and Venus!
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seems like lots of reasearch.
I would say that all of them hold true for people in general and not women in particular. Men too are fond of attention and empathy but perhaps they have to be dealt with in a different manner.
Well drafted but the points are not gender specific…you have collated the points nicely but only point missed is that women are more subtle about everything. If you play along with your true self…there are chances that you don’t even have to try hard…remember there are no set standards to understand God’s sharpest creation…just a tender approach with a bit of respect…that’s all you need to woo-men…:-)
When it is about understanding women, there are so many points beyond the ones you have discussed. Just accept them the way they are (without trying to change them the way you want them to be) and they will shower whatever they have on you. 🙂
all the traits apply to both the sides, but men dont want to stoop low to express them
but women are not hypocrite to give a refined, less explicit and more understood face to it..
These 5 points hold true for all women and for men too. But generally women take this more seriously than men. But whatever it be, what ever you do to understand, please, or attract a woman, it’s always difficult to understand a woman. Even some girls write in their ‘about me’ as “Difficult to understand me” 😛
Sorry …… Won't say anything about them. Its been classified.
frankly speaking, I dont actually find it reasonable for men to always think about the mentality and persona of women and not sufficiently being thoughful about what their fellow men have to know. But of course, women were sent to earth to accompany men and stand my men while they take their way to success & freedom. Not trying to sound men-mentality, and of course no reason to offend women.
MEN CAN’T UNDERSTAND WOMEN…… EVEN GOD HAS NOT DONE IT YET SUCCESSFULLY…..
So No COMMENTS on this article..
But….. But… But…..
God Created Women and Women are the Creator of Rest of the Things….
They are Mother, Sisters, Beloved Wife, Grand Maa, Daughters etc etc ….
And Behind Every Successful ***
IF U ASK MY OPINION … I would proud to say that ” WOMEN NEED NOT TO BE UNDERSTOOD, THEY ONLY NEEDED TO BE LOVED “
I am glad that you have understood the attributes of God’s two beautiful creation : i.e Men & Women , so well . It is even more exciting to see that : you have actually been able to put it on a single piece of paper giving perfect shape & correct meaning to your thoughts .. Brilliant .. must say ..
Yes ! you are right , these attributes : Attention , complements , empathy etc hold true for both of them . In fact I would say the degree of these attributes(elements) are very rightly set for both of them to attain a perfect balance in life . .. And the outcome is : A happy life ..full of fun , enjoying the way both behave towards each other with a varying degree of these attributes .. Nehin to socho life kitni boring hoti ….hei na …. So Cheers ! .. clap clap (for my Lazy boy) ..
Well I have to say a little more about the element “Reason” : You know ,for men “finding reason” is always Logical , and for Women its always Dil-logical .. very true ..Women got this attribute a little more than required .. But its ULTA in my case . I always keep asking you the logic more : eta mote kana pain kahila ? .. ha ha .. what say ..
Hello Guys…Thanks for your insightful comments!!!
Understandably, the differences in our point of views are enduring….
The equation between a man and a woman has often been quoted by many intellectual people in the past. And, you might fall in love with some of them too….take a look:
“An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have. The older she gets the more interested he is in her.” – Agatha Christie, English Playwright
“A foolish man tells a woman to stop talking, but a wise man tells her that her mouth is extremely beautiful when her lips are closed” – Anonymous
“A man’s face is his autobiography. A woman’s face is her work of fiction.” – Oscar Wilde, Irish Poet
“Every woman is wrong until she cries, and then she is right, instantly” – Thomas C. Haliburton, Canadian Writer
“Women always worry about the things that men forget; men always worry about the things women remember” – Anonymous
“A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.”-George Jean Nathan, American Journalist
When men and women were allowed to punctuate a simple sentence….they used their respective punctuation prowess as follows:
“Woman, without her man, is nothing” – This is how men punctuated.
“Woman! Without her, man is nothing” – This is how women punctuated.
Maybe somebody just got tired of dwelling on the differences and said:
Let the Long Contention Cease! Geese are Swans, and Swans are Geese.
Appreciating your effort towards understanding woman and bridging the gap between Mars and Venus…I would not let it go without saying ..whatever may be the reason women are still the topic of discussion since time immemorial whether for an individual or the whole lot of intellectuals(human psychologists)…’Coz
“Women ….are God’s most beautiful fable intricately Woven…”
So, being a man if you have spent hours in contemplation to write an article about understanding women…to help your lot bridge the gap between men and women……Being a woman I sincerely appreciate your endeavour ….’coz half of the life span of a woman in spent in woo-ing- men….
Adding to it i just wish to say , as the famous punch line of surf excel goes “Kuch Dag Ache Hote Hai”….similarly….”Kuch Gap Ache Hote Hai”…..
With due respect for both the inhabitants of Mars and Venus, I take the freedom of articulating my thoughts for rekindling neverending discussion….. “Men(Rational Fools) are too confused to understand the simplicity of Women(Emotional Fools)”……And the argument continues………….
Its hard to believe that this post has been written by a man!! The points mentioned are surely genuine and true but i must say that it is this gap between Venus and Mars which makes it more appealing….lets not try to bridge that!! In short….a great read..!
somebody has done a lot of research on women…..rgt..
so now i can relax more…. coz u knw how 2 handle women…..
I agree to all the above mentioned points but I would rather say that you need to fall in love to write about things you have not mentioned.I Strongly believe that when it comes to the rules of attraction, women have the added advantage by default and for the Race of Men, I would like to quote just a single line,
”Men are great musicians; they have the ability to coax music out of anything.” Ya really I mean anything. A very well organized article and an excellent way of jotting down your ideas. I would rather say that when it comes to writing and putting things in a rare fashion(“never heard of”), you are always at the Zenith. Carry on and I am waiting for the release of your future articles may be Men And Women V2.0…
if u think u understand a woman,,,,u r wrong