An old saying “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” is worth remembering, especially when you’re a male trying to get along well with a female. Women and their idiosyncratic thought process have always bewildered men, and it holds true regardless of the socio-economic or geographical attributes that surround them. It goes without saying, the same things hold true for men too. If you’re a careerist, or someone who pays more attentions to success, and looking for a stable relationship, you might find socializing with female rather difficult. Here are a couple of elements that might put things in perspective while you delve into the female factor:
100% Attention
Everybody enjoys attention, and it is not gender-specific. However, women are more prone to enjoying attentions – something that helps your relationship thrives on. They relish the undivided attentions being showered on them, and usually get upset when you share your attention with something (e.g, swanky cell phone) or someone (e.g, another friend or maybe even your favorite rock star on TV). Regardless of the nature of talk, they would love you to offer your undivided attention to their conversation. Women sure love compliments, but it is rightly said that the highest compliment you can ever pay a woman is offer your undivided attention to her.
Compliments
Whether it is a male or female, timed rightly, compliments can boost one’s morale. But, women have a thing for compliments. Some like them in plenty, some in moderation. However, insincere adulation or excessive praise is more likely to hurt your credibility. Hence, be honest with your compliments and be creative about how you offer tribute to her elements. It often works and pays off.
Empathy
Women are a different breed – they have their own ways of dealing with stress and problems. An effective therapy most women fall back on when they’re under stress is finding a good outlet to vent out. Nothing soothes a woman more than talking about her problems to someone she trusts. But, make no mistake – she does not turn to you to seek a solution; rather she wants someone to empathize with her feelings and not offer their suggestions. Don’t offer her quick solutions – just listen to her and she will love you for that.
Communication
One doesn’t have to be a Harvard pass-out to understand the importance of communication in relationships. However, for obvious reasons, women feel secure when you communicate with then often enough, and of course, for all good reasons. Whether it is a nice text message from your cell phone, or seeking her valuable suggestions on a matter that’s important to you, she loves being communicated to so very often. No wonder then why a recent AirTel Ad has been crafted around the “talk” factor. It says, Baat karnese hi Baat banti Hei…
Reason
Remember, they are from Venus. Women are different from men and have their own reasons for being the way they are. Call it Illogical or Dil-logical, women, at times, might appear not logical enough to you. But then, they have different needs and they think differently. While men prefer focusing on one thing to find a solution, women tend to move from one subject to another simply to get things off their chest. If you want to understand them, be patient enough to listen to them until they find a solution their way!
It might so happen that you already know these facts or simply disagree with them, but these facts have been confirmed by human psychologists from around the world. With due respect to the women, this article is merely an effort to help bridge the gap between Mars and Venus!
karan says
seems like lots of reasearch.
Namrata says
I would say that all of them hold true for people in general and not women in particular. Men too are fond of attention and empathy but perhaps they have to be dealt with in a different manner.